When Love Turns Into Control… and Control Turns Deadly
He wasn’t a criminal—at least, not in the way we imagine criminals to be.
He was someone she trusted. Someone she loved. Someone she chose.
And that is what makes this case deeply unsettling.
Because it forces us to ask a disturbing question:
How does an ordinary relationship transform into something so violent… so inhuman?
📖 The Story
In 2022, a shocking case from Delhi captured the attention of the entire country.
A young woman, Shraddha Walker, was allegedly murdered by her live-in partner, Aaftab Poonawala.
What followed was even more disturbing.
Reports suggested that after the murder, the accused dismembered her body and disposed of it over several days to avoid detection.
This wasn’t a crime committed in a moment of panic and immediately confessed.
It was calculated. Sustained. Disturbingly controlled.
Which leads to the real question:
👉 What kind of mindset allows a person to act this way?
🧠 Psychological Breakdown
Let’s move beyond headlines and look at possible psychological patterns.
1. Control and Possessiveness
Many violent relationship crimes are rooted in extreme control.
Not love. Not passion.
Control.
When one partner begins to see the other as:
- “Mine”
- “My possession”
- “Something I own”
Any resistance can trigger aggression.
👉 This is often linked to insecure attachment styles and fear of abandonment.
2. Emotional Suppression → Sudden Explosion
In many such cases, there isn’t always constant visible violence.
Instead:
- Arguments build over time
- Emotions are suppressed
- Resentment grows silently
Until one moment becomes the breaking point.
👉 Psychology calls this “accumulated emotional pressure leading to impulsive aggression.”
3. Lack of Empathy (A Key Red Flag)
One of the most disturbing aspects of this case was not just the act…
…but what happened after.
The ability to:
- Dismember a body
- Dispose of remains over time
- Continue normal behavior
👉 Suggests a severe lack of emotional empathy
This trait is often associated with:
- Psychopathic tendencies
- Emotional detachment
- Objectification of the victim
4. Cognitive Dissonance (How People Justify Horrific Acts)
After committing a crime, the human brain often tries to reduce guilt.
This is called cognitive dissonance.
The person may internally justify:
- “She deserved it”
- “I had no choice”
- “This was necessary”
👉 This mental process allows individuals to continue functioning after extreme actions.
🧩 The Bigger Human Tendency
This case is not just about one individual.
It reflects broader patterns we often ignore:
- Toxic relationships normalized
- Early warning signs dismissed
- Emotional abuse underestimated
👉 Violence rarely starts suddenly.
It builds quietly.
⚠️ Warning Signs We Often Ignore
Many such cases show similar early indicators:
- Excessive control over partner
- Isolation from friends/family
- Frequent intense arguments
- Emotional manipulation
- Sudden anger outbursts
👉 These are not “relationship issues”
They are potential risk signals
🎯 Final Thought
The most uncomfortable truth about crimes like this is not how rare they are…
But how human they are.
Not everyone becomes a criminal.
But the emotions behind such crimes—anger, control, fear, insecurity—exist in all of us.
The difference lies in how far they are allowed to grow.
